Saturday, April 2, 2011

kali's cures for anxiety

Thanks to everyone who offered suggestions and support. Glad I'm not alone in feeling anxious sometimes. I'm realizing that anxiety is just a part of life, especially with such great responsibility, and that's okay. I think a little bit of anxiety gives us the push we need to do things that need to be done or are a little bit out of our comfort zone.

The last couple of weeks, I have done a lot to reduce my stress level.

#1. I started exercising consistently. I tried Bikram (hot) yoga for a week and I absolutely fell in love with it. Unfortunately, they do not have a daycare, so I won't be able to go as much as I'd like. But, I got a gym membership instead and have been taking the kiddos to the daycare there. I get to exercise and a break, and they get to play and make friends. Win, win, win!

#2. I'm making it a priority to have some alone time with this guy. Dinners sans kids, candles, incense. You get the idea.

#3. Scheduling more play dates! The kids have a chance to interact, get their energy out (yay, nap time!) and I actually get to have an adult conversation.
 I love these babies.
#4. I'm making it a priority to wake up an hour before the kids do, to pray and study my scriptures, uninterrupted. By the time they're up, I've been reminded of my purpose, feel at peace, and prepared for the day.

#5. I basically just decided to simplify my life. Part of that was giving up the fashion blog for a while (maybe forever). Simplifying helps me to focus on the things that matter most. And for me, it's the little things. Getting down on the floor to play with my kids, letting them "help" me bake or do dishes. I've also had way more time to clean and organize, which reduces my stress level significantly.

I know that I'm going to look back on this time in my life and miss it. The moments are already ticking by so fast. I'm doing my best to cherish the everyday moments. Snuggle with my boys and kiss their pudgy cheeks, blow bubbles and let them make messes. I'm learning to live in the moment and to appreciate the beauty in my life. It humbles me to recognize so much of it.

5 comments:

Jess said...

So glad things are getting a little better for you. Just try and take even 5 minutes a day to just BREATH... Maybe put the kids in the stroller go for a walk... Hope everything keeps looking UP for you!

fijiangirl said...

What gym did you join? I just got a gym membership too and would love a workout partner.

Momma's Hart said...

You have such a talent for describing your feelings! And so cute with your pictures too. You are such a good mommy and wife! We must cherish these days as much as we can! I know I will miss my kiddos being little people! Sounds like so many good things are going your way.

<3

Katherine said...

Kali, you are amazing....you are so right....
Anxiety lights a fire under us to change, it is a signal that things are not quite right. It's always a good ideas to take inventory of your life every six months and see if you are doing too much or if you need to add something. Sounds like you got the next six month's figured out...:)

Jana said...

Next time I'm in Lodi we'll play again! i'm glad you're finding things that make you happy! I've found that it's the little things that add up to stress (messy house, no husband time, not exercising) and it's the little things that help make the stress go away! (take a walk, do the dishes, go on a date)